Paul, a reader of Best Lover magazine who
lives in Cross River State, told me of a problem he is having in his household
and I feel I should share it with others.
According to Paul, he used to have a
girlfriend even though he was married with kids. The girlfriend was also his
secretary in the office but she was a divorcee then with a child. “I used to
wear condom any time I slept with her,” Paul disclosed to me. ”But one day when
we were in bed, she removed the condom I was wearing. I asked her why and she
told me it was not necessary since we had known each other for long. She said
there was no need for us to continue to use condom… Unfortunately, I was in the
mood already and I couldn’t insist on wearing a condom so we made love like
that without a condom for the first time…
“After that day, any time we wanted to have
sex and I talked of condom, she would resist it. Eventually, I stopped talking
about condom and we were having sex skin to skin… Then one day after about four of five months
or so, she told me she was pregnant for me. I was really surprised when she
told me this.”
“Why would it surprise you?” I asked Paul.
“If you’re not using protection with a woman, the natural consequence of course
is pregnancy.”
“Honestly, I thought she was on some
contraceptives.”
“Well, you should have asked her and ensure
she was actually on contraceptives before you continue to bang her without
condom but you didn’t do that.”
“That was my mistake,” he conceded. “I
didn’t know she had the intention of hooking me with pregnancy. When I
suggested an abortion she said capital NO. Since she was my secretary, she knew
a lot about me. She knew most of my relations in town including my mother and
she started going to meet them and telling them that she was pregnant for me
and I was trying to force her to abort the baby.”
“So what did your family people say?” I
asked Paul.
”They insisted I should marry her.”
”And you married her?”
“I have to, Mr Jerry. I married her because
there was really pressure on me. To start with, my first wife had two children
and they are all girls. So my family people especially my mother was saying
maybe God was going to give me a baby boy through her and I could be throwing
away my blessing if I didn’t marry her.”
“So you’re married to this lady now as your
second wife?”
“Yes Mr Jerry, she’s my second wife now.
That’s where I’m coming to. Just be patient, I’ll tell you what’s going on
now.”
“No problem, I’m listening.”
”Actually, she had a baby boy when she
delivered and I was happy. My family people were happy for me that I had a baby
boy at last.”
“What of your first wife, how did she take
it?”
“Well, no woman would be happy in such a
situation but the good thing about her is that she didn’t make trouble for me
or my second wife. She kind of accepted her fate even though she may not have
liked what had happened.”
“You’re a lucky guy then,” I stated.
“Ah! I’m not lucky o, Mr Jerry. There’s
problem o. That’s where I’m coming to.”
“What’s the problem?”
“For some months now, I’ve been having weak
erections…”
“Weak erection is a common thing and there
is solution.”
“The way I see it, this one is not ordinary
weak erection.”
“How do mean?”
“The thing is that I can have sex normally
with my second wife and I enjoy her a lot. I don’t have weak erection when I
sleep with her. In fact, my erection is super strong when I meet her. But when
I meet my first wife, there is problem. I can’t have erection that is strong
enough to have sex with her.”
At that point, I agreed with Paul that
there was a problem cos this was no ordinary weak erection. But I asked him:
“Have you tried any other woman apart from your first wife to know if…”
“Yes,” he cuts in. “I was in Abuja roughly
two weeks ago for our NEC meeting because I’m in the Exco of my professional
body and we had our NEC meeting in Abuja about two weeks ago. I used the
opportunity to get one lady and took her to my hotel room but I could not
perform! The lady walked out on me. On getting to Ogoja, I slept with my second
wife easily and when I attempted to sleep with my first wife the second day, it
was the same old story.”
“Na
wao!” I muttered helplessly.
“It’s terrible; I don’t know how to explain
it. It’s like a spiritual thing…It’s just like the story of Madam Rose that you
wrote about in your column last month… When I was reading it I felt this was
like what I’m going through. That’s why I said I should call and discuss with
you and if there is anybody who can offer advice or suggestions let me know. I
discussed the matter with some of my friends and one or two of them said my
second wife must have done something so that I would not be able to sleep with
any other woman except her. They advised that I see a spiritualist who can cast
out the spell or juju before it’s too late. This whole thing is surprising to
me. I have used several erection enhancing drugs before but they didn’t help.
But when I visit my second wife, drug or no drug, my erection would be full and
hard.”
When he finished talking, I assured Paul
that I would bring the matter to the notice of thousands of Best Lover readers
for their candid advice and suggestions. He pleaded with me to do so quickly
but subject to the condition that I don’t reveal his full identity and his phone
number to which I acceded.
Actually I have heard this sort of story
before but this was the first time someone would be telling me it actually
happened to him not that he heard it from somewhere. My rational mind used to
dismiss stories like these but after listening to Mr Paul I began to think
otherwise.
So folks let’s do it as we always do it
here. Send your advice, suggestions, comments, etc concerning Mr Paul’s matter
to 08033377115. Same will be forwarded to him and some of the comments will
also be published in subsequent editions of Best Lover for the benefit of other
readers. You are also free to drop a comment here.
