HOW TO GET A NIGERIAN SUGAR MOMMY.

As the editor of Nigeria’s leading romance and softcore journal, Best Lover, I get calls, text messages and emails every other day from young Nigerian men asking me to “connect” or ”link” them to “sugar mommies,” “cougars,” “MILFs,” “older women,” etc.

The bottom line is that these guys are in desperate need of rich, older women. They need someone who can take care of them financially while they in turn take care of her emotional and sexual needs.

I do understand that some young men naturally prefer older women for a date and there may be some evolutionary reasons for this, but majority of these Nigerian studs are desperate for these relationships just for cash. And as the country’s economy gets worse with job losses and inflation spiraling out of control, the demand for rich older women gets higher.  

Not surprisingly, scammers have jumped into the fray to cash on the desperation of these young men. On daily basis, they put up adverts in magazines, newspapers and online in their websites, blogs, Facebook and other social mediums on the internet where they promise to “connect” or “link” young men with “very rich women,” “sugar mommy,” “cougars,” etc who will pamper them with money and gifts of all kinds. All they need to do is pay a certain amount as “registration fee,” “connection fee” or “agency fee” and they will be immediately connected to these women. Of course it is a scam of the advanced-fee-fraud genre and the moment the so called “connection fee” or “agency fee” is paid, these guys cut off communication with the victim or continue to dribble him and cajole him to pay more money until he eventually realized that he is being scammed.

Nigerian young men in their millions have fallen prey to these scams and many more will fall victim owing to desperation and ignorance.

I have spent a lot of time to inform and warn Nigerian young men about these scams. I always tell them that there is no agency or anybody who has the telephone numbers or list of sugar mommies and other rich older women that they will give to them just by asking for them. I have also taken the pains to educate them about the psychology and behaviour of the average Nigerian woman when it comes to dating. I have equally made it clear to them that the dating scene in Nigeria has not evolved to the point where rich women engage agencies to help them search for sugar boys as these scammers want them to believe.

It is against this background that I wrote the book, Get Your Sugar Mommy Now! Easy Ways To Talk To Rich, Older Ladies & Win Their Love,”

The book is all about what you can do as a young man to get a sugar mommy in Nigeria. Surely, there are sugar mamas in Nigeria and many guys are dating them. You can also get yours but you won’t get one by paying money to someone to get one for you. You have to go get her yourself!

There are certain things that guys who are dating sugar mommies did and are still doing that you have not done that is preventing you from getting a sugar mama. What are those things you have not done and how did these guys get their sugar mom? The answers are all in this fascinating booklet.

You will discover from this book that at the end of the day, the so called sugar mommy, cougars, MILF, etc are women. They just happen to be older, richer and perhaps more educated than the guy seeking them. It follows that if you understand women especially the Nigerian specie and know what to say when you approach them, you will not have a problem getting a sugar mommy or any other rich older woman in Nigeria. You may not know it but truth is that many rich Nigerian ladies and celebrities are living loveless lives, are lonely and in need of company. They are vulnerable and much easier to talk to than you may have imagined. The challenge is knowing how to identify them, where to meet them and what to say when you approach them. The book is all of these and lots more. Are you tongue-tied, shy and unable to talk to women? Are you afraid of rejection? Are you intimated by the age, wealth and fame of rich women? These are the things preventing you from getting a sugar mommy and the book will show you in practical ways how to overcome such obstacles. Get this book today and turn your disabilities to ability. Among others, it includes chapters on How to use the internet particularly social media to “positively” stalk women and win their love; Where exactly to meet sugar mommies in Nigeria, How exactly to approach them and what to say, what they want from you and how to sustain their friendship and make them spend money on you and lots and lots more.  

HOW TO BUY

This book costs N500 (Five Hundred Naira) only. Pay the money into First Bank account number: 3021973724.  The ACCOUNT NAME IS: VENUS BOOKS COMPANY. 

And an additional N1,500 (One Thousand Five Hundred Naira) to cover cost of courier delivery to you anywhere you live in Nigeria.

Upon making your payment, text your teller number and name to me on 08033371175. 

Be rest assured that the book will be delivered to you within 48 hours. Our courier delivery partners include Fedex Express, UPS, DHL, ABC Transport Courier, Agofure Motors (Parcel) Service, AKTC Parcel Service and Delta Line Parcel Service.

Other delivery methods that may be more convenient and suitable to you can be negotiated. Call me on 08033371175 for further enquiries.

INFIDELITY: WHEN TO FORGIVE AND SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE.

I got a rude shock couple of days ago when news of the breakup of one of my friend’s marriage got to me. The wife had gone to court for the dissolution of their five years marriage. I couldn't reach my friend or his estranged wife but I got through to a mutual friend who lives close to them. From him, I learned that my friend’s wife claimed she caught my friend with another woman and she was not ready to forgive or forget his infidelity. She decided to end the marriage.

My friend’s case is not an isolated one because infidelity is a major issue in today’s marriage. Globally, it is said to be the main cause of the breakup of most marriages. There is also strong evidence that men are often the guilty party in marital infidelity and women are left in a quagmire whether to live with it or not. But should a woman head for divorce the moment she discovers her husband’s infidelity? Should the marriage come to an end because the man banged another pussy?

Women should know that there is a difference between a married man who is having an affair and a married man who is having casual sex or flicks for the fun of it. A woman whose husband is having an affair should be more worried than a woman whose husband is having flicks with other women for sex’s sake. Am I getting you confused here? Well, just read on and you will get my drift.

Men by their nature are promiscuous. Biology, Nature and society appear to be in support of that. The instinct is always there in men to mate and their libido on the average is higher than those of women. Besides, the average man can have sex for the fun of it without any emotions attached. What is more, his body is designed to be able to mate anywhere, any time and for whatever reason.

Women on the contrary have a lot of emotions attached to sex. Except prostitutes who do it for money, the average woman needs some justification for sex. (Note that I keep using the word “average” because I’m talking of general rules here to which I’m aware there are a number of exceptions.) Moving on, the average woman needs some level of emotional attachment before she can have sex with a man. The man must meet certain criteria and standards already set in her subconscious. She wants to know for instance, if the man really loves her as he claims or he is only trying to use her. She wants to find out if sleeping with him is politically correct or not. What would people say? What would my children think of me? What would happen to my marriage if I’m caught? Etc.

The average man rarely considers any of these. His animal instinct for sex seems higher than that of a woman and rational considerations like the ones above are hardly any cause of concern to him. A hole is a hole as far as he is concerned and he can sow his seeds wildly without any sense of commitment or recourse to emotional feelings.

It is therefore necessary for our womenfolk to understand this aspect of men and overlook some of their actions. We could save a lot of marriages if our women are conscious of the sexual nature of men and be ready to take them for whom they are and forgive them.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to endorse infidelity by men but whether we like it or not, men will be men. If you’re going to end that marriage because he cheated on you, you might just end up being a serial divorcee! Reason is that the next man you hook up with could even be worse and society is not going to be fair enough to find out why you got divorced once, twice or more. All they know is that you have divorced several times and there is a stigma attached to that.

Bottom line is if your husband is just having flicks and not affairs, you should overlook them and develop some measure of thick skin to them in the interest of the marriage.

And that takes me back to the meaning of “having an affair” and “just having fun.”  A married man who is having an affair is a man who has another woman outside that he is committed to. The key word here is committed. He sees the woman regularly, provides for her financially and maybe along the line gets her pregnant and starts having another family with her.  

An affair of this nature is always a threat to a marriage. This is the type that should worry a married woman and the type that needs to be seriously addressed before it gets out of hand.

On the other hand, a married woman whose husband has a high libido and is having flings here and there for instance with campus girls and similar hustlers, should not give the woman sleepless nights. No one is going to take her place. In most cases, such men love their wife and family. He is only trying to satisfy a biological need by fucking around with those small girls. He is not and cannot be committed to them. He will not go home to them; his wife is the one he will go home to. He is not in love with them and will never bring them home to destroy his family. He loves his wife and family not those small girls he fucks outside. Remember, men can fuck without love. They don’t have to love somebody to sleep with her. That is the nature of men, so don’t go about asking: “If he loves me, why is he sleeping with another woman?” Sex is not = to love in a man’s world. It is all about quenching a biological thirst. This is one bitter truth I’m sure your mom didn’t tell you.

Men are visual beings and are easily aroused by what they see. With all the sexual images around and hot, sexy ladies tempting them with their hot bodies all over the place, men have got to be men. It is pure lust and physical gratification that they are exhibiting and nothing else. A man’s love for his wife and family is what will endure at the end of the day. So ladies don’t break that marriage and jeopardize the future of your family because of your man’s irrepressible third leg. You can save that marriage with some dose of patience and forgiveness. Your mother did it hence her marriage lasted.  

Let me state again that I’m not trying to encourage male philandering. Infidelity in whatever form it takes has implications for a man’s finance, health and otherwise and it affects the entire family on the long run. However, we need to face reality. These things happen whether we like it or not and we need a realistic approach to them. A lady once asked me if men forgive in similar circumstances. “A man will not hesitate to throw the woman out if she is the one that cheated. So why would I overlook his own infidelity?” she queried.

Well, it sounds logical but I’m sorry to say, it’s still a man’s world and not all is fair in a man’s world. Reality check indicates that forgiving his casual flings especially when he shows remorse pays more than breaking the marriage. There is even no guarantee that you’re going to get a saint in your second timeout or would you?

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