I got a rude shock couple of days ago when news of the
breakup of one of my friend’s marriage got to me. The wife had gone to court
for the dissolution of their five years marriage. I couldn't reach my friend or
his estranged wife but I got through to a mutual friend who lives close to
them. From him, I learned that my friend’s wife claimed she caught my friend
with another woman and she was not ready to forgive or forget his infidelity.
She decided to end the marriage.
My friend’s case is not an isolated one because
infidelity is a major issue in today’s marriage. Globally, it is said to be the
main cause of the breakup of most marriages. There is also strong evidence that
men are often the guilty party in marital infidelity and women are left in a
quagmire whether to live with it or not. But should a woman head for divorce
the moment she discovers her husband’s infidelity? Should the marriage come to
an end because the man banged another pussy?
Women should know that there is a difference between a
married man who is having an affair and a married man who is having casual sex
or flicks for the fun of it. A woman whose husband is having an affair should
be more worried than a woman whose husband is having flicks with other women
for sex’s sake. Am I getting you confused here? Well, just read on and you will
get my drift.
Men by their nature are promiscuous. Biology, Nature
and society appear to be in support of that. The instinct is always there in
men to mate and their libido on the average is higher than those of women.
Besides, the average man can have sex for the fun of it without any emotions
attached. What is more, his body is designed to be able to mate anywhere, any
time and for whatever reason.
Women on the contrary have a lot of emotions attached
to sex. Except prostitutes who do it for money, the average woman needs some
justification for sex. (Note that I keep using the word “average” because I’m
talking of general rules here to which I’m aware there are a number of
exceptions.) Moving on, the average woman needs some level of emotional
attachment before she can have sex with a man. The man must meet certain
criteria and standards already set in her subconscious. She wants to know for
instance, if the man really loves her as he claims or he is only trying to use
her. She wants to find out if sleeping with him is politically correct or not. What would people say? What would my
children think of me? What would happen to my marriage if I’m caught? Etc.
The average man rarely considers any of these. His
animal instinct for sex seems higher than that of a woman and rational
considerations like the ones above are hardly any cause of concern to him. A hole is a hole as far as he is
concerned and he can sow his seeds wildly without any sense of commitment or
recourse to emotional feelings.
It is therefore necessary for our womenfolk to
understand this aspect of men and overlook some of their actions. We could save
a lot of marriages if our women are conscious of the sexual nature of men and
be ready to take them for whom they are and forgive them.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to endorse
infidelity by men but whether we like it or not, men will be men. If you’re
going to end that marriage because he cheated on you, you might just end up being a serial divorcee! Reason is that the next man
you hook up with could even be worse and society is not going to be fair enough
to find out why you got divorced once, twice or more. All they know is that you
have divorced several times and there is a stigma attached to that.
Bottom line is if your husband is just having flicks
and not affairs, you should overlook them and develop some measure of thick
skin to them in the interest of the marriage.
And that takes me back to the meaning of “having an
affair” and “just having fun.” A married
man who is having an affair is a man who has another woman outside that he is
committed to. The key word here is committed. He sees the woman
regularly, provides for her financially and maybe along the line gets her
pregnant and starts having another family with her.
An affair of this
nature is always a threat to a marriage. This is the type that should worry a
married woman and the type that needs to be seriously addressed before it gets
out of hand.
On the other hand, a married woman whose husband has a
high libido and is having flings here and there for instance with campus girls
and similar hustlers, should not give the woman sleepless nights. No one is
going to take her place. In most cases, such men love their wife and family. He
is only trying to satisfy a biological need by fucking around with those small
girls. He is not and cannot be committed to them. He will not go home to them;
his wife is the one he will go home to. He is not in love with them and will
never bring them home to destroy his family. He loves his wife and family not
those small girls he fucks outside. Remember, men can fuck without love. They
don’t have to love somebody to sleep with her. That is the nature of men, so
don’t go about asking: “If he loves me,
why is he sleeping with another woman?” Sex is not = to love
in a man’s world. It is all about quenching a biological thirst. This is one
bitter truth I’m sure your mom didn’t tell you.
Men are visual beings and are easily aroused by what
they see. With all the sexual images around and hot, sexy ladies tempting them
with their hot bodies all over the place, men have got to be men. It is pure
lust and physical gratification that they are exhibiting and nothing else. A
man’s love for his wife and family is what will endure at the end of the day.
So ladies don’t break that marriage and jeopardize the future of your family
because of your man’s irrepressible third leg. You can save that marriage with
some dose of patience and forgiveness. Your mother did it hence her marriage
lasted.
Let me state again that I’m not trying to encourage
male philandering. Infidelity in whatever form it takes has implications for a
man’s finance, health and otherwise and it affects the entire family on the
long run. However, we need to face reality. These things happen whether we like
it or not and we need a realistic approach to them. A lady once asked me if men
forgive in similar circumstances. “A man will not hesitate to throw the woman
out if she is the one that cheated. So why would I overlook his own
infidelity?” she queried.
Well, it sounds logical but I’m sorry to say, it’s
still a man’s world and not all is fair in a man’s world. Reality check
indicates that forgiving his casual flings especially when he shows remorse
pays more than breaking the marriage. There is even no guarantee that you’re
going to get a saint in your second timeout or would you?
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