NIGERIAN WOMEN SHARE THE DETAILS OF THEIR HOTTEST SEX EVER.

You can hardly forget the best or most memorable sex you've had. The memory can linger in you even for a lifetime.

In my capacity as editor of Nigeria’s leading sex journal, Best Lover magazine, I have had the privilege to talk intimately with a cross section of Nigerian women over the years and I often ask them to tell me their best sexual encounter or any sexual encounter they have had that is so memorable to them.  I often get very positive responses from them especially when I take them into confidence. Below are a couple of such confessions made to me. (Please note that I have changed some of the names to protect their identity. Photographs used here are merely symbolic and not those of the interviewees.)

*       *       *

“My best and most memorable sex was a threesome. Two guys with me. We were all drunk after we left a club. Very fantastic. I still dream of the double penetration. I wish I could have something like that again but too bad I’m married now.”

-Tricia, Ajah, Lagos.

*          *          *

“My wedding night sex still remains the best and most memorable. We had our honeymoon in Abidjan in one of the best hotels in West Africa and the sex that night was so romantic, so fantastic. I wonder if it can ever be that good with my husband again.”

-Seun, Festac, Lagos.

*          *          *

“My boyfriend once blindfolded me and made love to me in our balcony at night. It was great. I think that is my best sex. I came severally.”

-Chineye, Oworonshoki, Lagos.

*          *          *

 “I am a very loud person when it comes to sex. I always express myself verbally. But sometimes last year, my boyfriend and I visited one of my aunts in the village. In the night both of us were very much in the mood to have sex and we were aware the walls were paper-thin. My aunt and her grown up children were sleeping in the next room. The slightest sound from us would be heard in the next room. We went ahead and did it in the most silent and non-verbal way we had not done before. It made everything feel so much more urgent and hot.”

—Afoke, Ughelli, Delta State.

*          *          *

“My boyfriend used to say he would go down on me for hours, and one day, we put it to the test. He went down on me for several hours. We had little breaks in between, but what was incredible was the devotion to focus on my pleasure. I had countless orgasms and I’m looking forward to the day he would do that to me again.”

—Roli, Warri, Delta State.

*          *          *

“I was into runs long ago and a friend introduced me to a Senegalese man who was in Abuja for business. His English was terrible; we could barely communicate but when we went to bed, it was fantastic. The man was very well endowed-about the biggest I've seen but he was gentle and handled me like a baby. He licked me everywhere and made me so relaxed and wet and I was begging him to enter me. When he did, it was out of this world. I came many times. It was so nice. I've never met another man that is so good in bed. Unfortunately, we met only that one time. I don’t have his contact and I don’t even remember the name he called for me now.”

-Benita, Wuse, Abuja.

*          *          *

“One of my ex-boyfriends and I were traveling one time and we stopped on the way to check something in the car. There was a steep rock nearby and he joked that the place would be good for a quickie and I agreed with him. He suggested that we actually have a quickie. I felt it was crazy but he cajoled me to do it and it turned out to the hottest sex for me. Maybe the fear of somebody seeing us or some creature emerging from the bush, I really don’t know but it was quick yet so sweet.”

-Damilare, Osogbo, Osun State.

*          *          *   

                                                                                  

“One time, my husband and I did it doggy style in front of a mirror. What was so hot was seeing our faces. I could see how much we both wanted it. It was awesome.”

Nkonye, Agbor, Delta State.

*          *          *

 “My best sex was when one of my ex-boyfriends gave me oral sex but before he did so, he slowly slide an ice cube around my clitoris. The cold of the ice followed by the warmth of his tongue was an incredible sensation.” 

—Stella, Abuja.

BEST LOVER FEBRUARY, 2017 EDITION

The cover page of February, 2017  Best Lover, Nigeria's leading romance and soft porn magazine. Available all over Nigeria at newsstands. Soft copies in PDF formats also available.

PENIS SIZE, WOMEN & THEIR SATISFACTION.

In my many years as editor of Best Lover magazine, I have had scores of conversations with women about the most intimate details of their sex lives. They have told me things they have related to no other person, including their most esoteric sexual practices and wildest fantasies.

I observed from these conversations that majority of women are not fixated on the penis the way men for instance are obsessed with breasts, ass and some other feminine parts. But I often steer the conversation towards that direction to find out firsthand from them what they feel about that important male organ: The penis. And more often than not, they tell me sincerely how they feel about men’s cock.

It cannot be denied that when it comes to penises, some women do have a definite preference as to size or shape and anything short of that may not please them. But the overwhelming majority of women I have interviewed have confessed that length, width, appearance, and complexion are all factors that do not matter to them in a long-term relationship when they love the guy and he treats them well. I eventually came to the realization that as long as the penis is not a very small one, the average woman is not so bothered about the size. Of a truth, men are the ones who usually bellyache about penis size and not the average woman. In reality, penis size is not as significant as most men believe it to be because the penis is not the only body part that can be used to stimulate and satisfy a woman.

As a good lover, you must learn to use your hands, lips, tongue, or any other device that can aid in stimulating your partner. Your goal is to satisfy her and who says the penis is the only tool you can use to achieve that?

It may interest you to know that many of the women I have sought their opinion, confessed that the hardness and responsiveness of the penis rather than size is what matters to them. What is the use of a big penis that is not functioning well? They usually ask rhetorically. “A living dog is better than a dead lion,” a lady once told me.

Some women however, have a preconditioned attraction to a large penis as a sign of masculinity. They make a psychological association between large penises and their own satisfaction. Popularly referred to as size queens, such ladies believe they can never get satisfaction from sex unless their partner’s penis is gigantic.

One thing you must know whether as a man or woman is that vaginas come in various sizes and some vaginas are extremely large. It is only logical that women with large vaginas would want huge cocks that can make an impact on their jumbo vaginae

. Quite a lot (but certainly not all) size queens tend to have a large tunnel down there!

Note however, that these women are in the minority. They are the exception to the rule and their preference does not define the desire of the average woman.

As in all things, knowledge is power, and I cannot stress enough how much the sexual power of a man can be elevated when he simply learns how to cater to the specific and unique needs of his partner. Ultimately, the penis, regardless of its size, is one of many sexual tools that a man has at his disposal. The more you learn how to use your entire body to stimulate your partner, the less important one part of the body becomes. Even size queens often confess that men with small cocks can be fantastic lovers with their tongues, hands etc.

And guess what, I have encountered many self-professed size queens who ended up getting married to men with small to average cocks!

Like I always say, sexuality is neither black nor white but of different shades of grey. 

HOW TO GET A NIGERIAN SUGAR MOMMY.

As the editor of Nigeria’s leading romance and softcore journal, Best Lover, I get calls, text messages and emails every other day from young Nigerian men asking me to “connect” or ”link” them to “sugar mommies,” “cougars,” “MILFs,” “older women,” etc.

The bottom line is that these guys are in desperate need of rich, older women. They need someone who can take care of them financially while they in turn take care of her emotional and sexual needs.

I do understand that some young men naturally prefer older women for a date and there may be some evolutionary reasons for this, but majority of these Nigerian studs are desperate for these relationships just for cash. And as the country’s economy gets worse with job losses and inflation spiraling out of control, the demand for rich older women gets higher.  

Not surprisingly, scammers have jumped into the fray to cash on the desperation of these young men. On daily basis, they put up adverts in magazines, newspapers and online in their websites, blogs, Facebook and other social mediums on the internet where they promise to “connect” or “link” young men with “very rich women,” “sugar mommy,” “cougars,” etc who will pamper them with money and gifts of all kinds. All they need to do is pay a certain amount as “registration fee,” “connection fee” or “agency fee” and they will be immediately connected to these women. Of course it is a scam of the advanced-fee-fraud genre and the moment the so called “connection fee” or “agency fee” is paid, these guys cut off communication with the victim or continue to dribble him and cajole him to pay more money until he eventually realized that he is being scammed.

Nigerian young men in their millions have fallen prey to these scams and many more will fall victim owing to desperation and ignorance.

I have spent a lot of time to inform and warn Nigerian young men about these scams. I always tell them that there is no agency or anybody who has the telephone numbers or list of sugar mommies and other rich older women that they will give to them just by asking for them. I have also taken the pains to educate them about the psychology and behaviour of the average Nigerian woman when it comes to dating. I have equally made it clear to them that the dating scene in Nigeria has not evolved to the point where rich women engage agencies to help them search for sugar boys as these scammers want them to believe.

It is against this background that I wrote the book, Get Your Sugar Mommy Now! Easy Ways To Talk To Rich, Older Ladies & Win Their Love,”

The book is all about what you can do as a young man to get a sugar mommy in Nigeria. Surely, there are sugar mamas in Nigeria and many guys are dating them. You can also get yours but you won’t get one by paying money to someone to get one for you. You have to go get her yourself!

There are certain things that guys who are dating sugar mommies did and are still doing that you have not done that is preventing you from getting a sugar mama. What are those things you have not done and how did these guys get their sugar mom? The answers are all in this fascinating booklet.

You will discover from this book that at the end of the day, the so called sugar mommy, cougars, MILF, etc are women. They just happen to be older, richer and perhaps more educated than the guy seeking them. It follows that if you understand women especially the Nigerian specie and know what to say when you approach them, you will not have a problem getting a sugar mommy or any other rich older woman in Nigeria. You may not know it but truth is that many rich Nigerian ladies and celebrities are living loveless lives, are lonely and in need of company. They are vulnerable and much easier to talk to than you may have imagined. The challenge is knowing how to identify them, where to meet them and what to say when you approach them. The book is all of these and lots more. Are you tongue-tied, shy and unable to talk to women? Are you afraid of rejection? Are you intimated by the age, wealth and fame of rich women? These are the things preventing you from getting a sugar mommy and the book will show you in practical ways how to overcome such obstacles. Get this book today and turn your disabilities to ability. Among others, it includes chapters on How to use the internet particularly social media to “positively” stalk women and win their love; Where exactly to meet sugar mommies in Nigeria, How exactly to approach them and what to say, what they want from you and how to sustain their friendship and make them spend money on you and lots and lots more.  

HOW TO BUY

This book costs N500 (Five Hundred Naira) only. Pay the money into First Bank account number: 3021973724.  The ACCOUNT NAME IS: VENUS BOOKS COMPANY. 

And an additional N1,500 (One Thousand Five Hundred Naira) to cover cost of courier delivery to you anywhere you live in Nigeria.

Upon making your payment, text your teller number and name to me on 08033371175. 

Be rest assured that the book will be delivered to you within 48 hours. Our courier delivery partners include Fedex Express, UPS, DHL, ABC Transport Courier, Agofure Motors (Parcel) Service, AKTC Parcel Service and Delta Line Parcel Service.

Other delivery methods that may be more convenient and suitable to you can be negotiated. Call me on 08033371175 for further enquiries.

INFIDELITY: WHEN TO FORGIVE AND SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE.

I got a rude shock couple of days ago when news of the breakup of one of my friend’s marriage got to me. The wife had gone to court for the dissolution of their five years marriage. I couldn't reach my friend or his estranged wife but I got through to a mutual friend who lives close to them. From him, I learned that my friend’s wife claimed she caught my friend with another woman and she was not ready to forgive or forget his infidelity. She decided to end the marriage.

My friend’s case is not an isolated one because infidelity is a major issue in today’s marriage. Globally, it is said to be the main cause of the breakup of most marriages. There is also strong evidence that men are often the guilty party in marital infidelity and women are left in a quagmire whether to live with it or not. But should a woman head for divorce the moment she discovers her husband’s infidelity? Should the marriage come to an end because the man banged another pussy?

Women should know that there is a difference between a married man who is having an affair and a married man who is having casual sex or flicks for the fun of it. A woman whose husband is having an affair should be more worried than a woman whose husband is having flicks with other women for sex’s sake. Am I getting you confused here? Well, just read on and you will get my drift.

Men by their nature are promiscuous. Biology, Nature and society appear to be in support of that. The instinct is always there in men to mate and their libido on the average is higher than those of women. Besides, the average man can have sex for the fun of it without any emotions attached. What is more, his body is designed to be able to mate anywhere, any time and for whatever reason.

Women on the contrary have a lot of emotions attached to sex. Except prostitutes who do it for money, the average woman needs some justification for sex. (Note that I keep using the word “average” because I’m talking of general rules here to which I’m aware there are a number of exceptions.) Moving on, the average woman needs some level of emotional attachment before she can have sex with a man. The man must meet certain criteria and standards already set in her subconscious. She wants to know for instance, if the man really loves her as he claims or he is only trying to use her. She wants to find out if sleeping with him is politically correct or not. What would people say? What would my children think of me? What would happen to my marriage if I’m caught? Etc.

The average man rarely considers any of these. His animal instinct for sex seems higher than that of a woman and rational considerations like the ones above are hardly any cause of concern to him. A hole is a hole as far as he is concerned and he can sow his seeds wildly without any sense of commitment or recourse to emotional feelings.

It is therefore necessary for our womenfolk to understand this aspect of men and overlook some of their actions. We could save a lot of marriages if our women are conscious of the sexual nature of men and be ready to take them for whom they are and forgive them.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to endorse infidelity by men but whether we like it or not, men will be men. If you’re going to end that marriage because he cheated on you, you might just end up being a serial divorcee! Reason is that the next man you hook up with could even be worse and society is not going to be fair enough to find out why you got divorced once, twice or more. All they know is that you have divorced several times and there is a stigma attached to that.

Bottom line is if your husband is just having flicks and not affairs, you should overlook them and develop some measure of thick skin to them in the interest of the marriage.

And that takes me back to the meaning of “having an affair” and “just having fun.”  A married man who is having an affair is a man who has another woman outside that he is committed to. The key word here is committed. He sees the woman regularly, provides for her financially and maybe along the line gets her pregnant and starts having another family with her.  

An affair of this nature is always a threat to a marriage. This is the type that should worry a married woman and the type that needs to be seriously addressed before it gets out of hand.

On the other hand, a married woman whose husband has a high libido and is having flings here and there for instance with campus girls and similar hustlers, should not give the woman sleepless nights. No one is going to take her place. In most cases, such men love their wife and family. He is only trying to satisfy a biological need by fucking around with those small girls. He is not and cannot be committed to them. He will not go home to them; his wife is the one he will go home to. He is not in love with them and will never bring them home to destroy his family. He loves his wife and family not those small girls he fucks outside. Remember, men can fuck without love. They don’t have to love somebody to sleep with her. That is the nature of men, so don’t go about asking: “If he loves me, why is he sleeping with another woman?” Sex is not = to love in a man’s world. It is all about quenching a biological thirst. This is one bitter truth I’m sure your mom didn’t tell you.

Men are visual beings and are easily aroused by what they see. With all the sexual images around and hot, sexy ladies tempting them with their hot bodies all over the place, men have got to be men. It is pure lust and physical gratification that they are exhibiting and nothing else. A man’s love for his wife and family is what will endure at the end of the day. So ladies don’t break that marriage and jeopardize the future of your family because of your man’s irrepressible third leg. You can save that marriage with some dose of patience and forgiveness. Your mother did it hence her marriage lasted.  

Let me state again that I’m not trying to encourage male philandering. Infidelity in whatever form it takes has implications for a man’s finance, health and otherwise and it affects the entire family on the long run. However, we need to face reality. These things happen whether we like it or not and we need a realistic approach to them. A lady once asked me if men forgive in similar circumstances. “A man will not hesitate to throw the woman out if she is the one that cheated. So why would I overlook his own infidelity?” she queried.

Well, it sounds logical but I’m sorry to say, it’s still a man’s world and not all is fair in a man’s world. Reality check indicates that forgiving his casual flings especially when he shows remorse pays more than breaking the marriage. There is even no guarantee that you’re going to get a saint in your second timeout or would you?

NB: READERS REACTION TO THIS ARTICLE ARE HIGHLY WELCOMED

TAKEN FOR A RIDE?*

A friend of mine just discovered that he was a victim of 419 for three years without realizing it! However, this is 419 with a twist and not the usual kind of advance fee fraud.

Here is the gist. My friend (Nelson by name) met Sharon, a young lady who told him she was in the university in the Eastern part of the country but was about to drop out owing to financial difficulties. She said her father was late and her mom, a primary school teacher, was finding it difficult to pay her school fees and those of her siblings. Sharon then appealed to Nelson to help her in paying her school fees and in return, she would be his sugar baby and any time he wants sex, she would give it to him to his satisfaction.

Nelson happens to be a businessman and also a Master degree holder. He is someone who cherishes education and believes everyone is entitled to a reasonable level of education. In the circumstances, he was willing to help Sharon.

He paid her school fees for three good years only to discover by sheer providence that Sharon is a fraud. She had never written JAMB/UTME not to talk of getting admission into the university. Investigation revealed that she dropped out from SS 2 in 2009 and had been “hustling” all these years and ripping off “mugus” like Nelson who fall victim to her feminine charms. In fact, her real name is Ebere but she uses names like Sharon, Jessica, Jennifer, Cynthia, etc for her many runs.

I couldn't help laughing when I heard the gist. I asked Nelson if he had been sleeping with Sharon or not and he confirmed that he had been sleeping with her.

“Case close,” I declared. “You were fucking her and she was collecting the money for the fuck service she was rendering to you. There is no breach of contract here as far as I can see.”

“Jerry how you go talk like that?” Nelson queried. “This girl is a criminal! Don’t support bad thing, please. Do you know how many men she must have done this to? She took advantage of the fact that I’m an educated person who value education and would not want to see somebody drop out of school just because of finance. I did this thing genuinely to help her not because of sex. What is sex compared to what I spent on her? There are girls everywhere I can meet any time for sex and give them peanuts and they will be happy. I would not spend all that money on her if it’s just because of sex… In fact, I don’t even think it’s up to twenty times I slept with her for the whole of three years that I sponsored her. She was supposed to be schooling in the East and I’m in Lagos. It’s only when she comes to Lagos that I’m able to sleep with her. Meanwhile I was wiring money to her all the time as if she was my daughter or sister. School fees, accommodation, feeding, pocket money, everything. So this is not about sex. I have the mind to help and this girl simply took me for a ride.”

I could see the point Nelson was making and I believed him to a large extent, but I continued to play the devil’s advocate.

“I agreed that you wanted to help this girl but you could have done so without attaching sex to it,’ I admonished.  “Let me ask you, assuming she did not agree to have sex with you, would you have continued to send money to her? Or if it was a guy that pleaded with you in the same circumstances to help him, would you have helped him?”

Believe you me; I got Nelson incensed with those questions. As far as he was concerned, I was supporting criminality and he walked out on me in anger.

Honestly, I’m still having a good laugh over the matter but don’t get me wrong, I am not supporting Sharon or her likes who take advantage of men’s emotional vulnerability to dupe them. Far from it. However, the questions I asked Nelson are very pertinent and being the rhetorical questions they were meant to be, he could not provide me with an answer. To make matters worse, he’s a married man. Even if we agreed that a crime had been committed, Nelson would not be able to lay a complaint against Sharon. Any publicity to be given to the matter in the form of arrest, would expose his adulterous trysts with Sharon and that is the last thing he wants for now. 

Sharon is a criminal no doubt and she will meet her Waterloo sooner than later. But can we say she took Nelson for a ride or Nelson deserved what he got? What advice would you give Nelson in the circumstances? Who fall your hand pass out of the two of them? Is this a case of 419 or 41-LOVE? Please I need your comments/reactions are needed.

*This piece was first published in Best Lover magazine

THERE IS SEX BEYOND PENETRATION.

I had an intimate discussion with a certain woman recently and she told me her husband was involved in a motor accident that left him paralyzed and he could no longer have sex with her. She said she loved the man so could not afford to cheat on him but at the same time, wondered if she could stay without sex for the rest of her life.

I reminded this woman that there are two types of sex: Partner and solo sex. “If you cannot have sex with your husband, what stops you from having sex with yourself?” I asked her.

She was confused at first and I had to break it down for her and eventually, she realized I was talking about masturbation. 

Like most people, she had masturbated before but in her case, she always feels guilty about it. She grew up as a church girl with the “masturbation is a sin” mantra preached by the church fully entrenched in her subconscious. But I made her realize that masturbation was designed by nature as an alternative to partner sex and where that had become impossible as in her present situation, masturbation was the obvious way out. It is politically correct in all ramifications and that the Bible did not in portion mention masturbation as a bad thing or “sin” as evangelicals would want us to believe.

“But it cannot be like the real sex,” she said at last.

“It can be like the real sex if not better,” I told her. “It all depends on your state of mind and what you do when you masturbate. In fact, many women will tell you they don’t have orgasm from sex but they always do when they masturbate. Yes, you may not have the body-to-body intimacy as well as the sweet talks that you get from sex with a partner, but masturbation has its advantages as well. It can be very intense and tends to be sweeter for most women.”

I further advised this woman to get her husband involved in masturbation. This I said would serve two purposes. First, it would make her feel less guilty about masturbating and secondly, it will reintroduce sexual intimacy to their marriage. “Sexuality is not all about the penis penetrating the vagina,” I told her. “Sexuality is far broader than that. The fact that your husband is physically challenged does not mean it is over for him sexually. There is sex beyond penetration. You can have a rewarding session of mutual masturbation where he masturbates you with his hands or tongue while you do same to his organs. A lot of men with spinal cord injury or on wheelchair for other reasons can still have a partial erection that enables them to masturbate especially when a woman is helping them out.”

I suggested other things to the woman that she and her husband can do together in bed and more importantly, how different types of sex toys can be of help to them.

She was really impressed with everything I told her and perhaps for the first time since her husband had the accident, it occurred to her that all was not lost as far as sexual intimacy between her and her husband was concerned. She promised to do all that I advised and give me feedback.

I have not heard from the lady but I am sure the feedback will be positive. Handled properly, the husband will feel wanted and not abandoned. He will be reassured of his wife’s fidelity and love. Believe me, such positive energy springing from the man will not only help their relationship but provide the building blocks for his healing process.